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Welcome...

My name is Melissa and I am in my honest-mom era.

Motherhood is hard and it’s even harder when we feel like we are alone. For a long time I struggled with things like overwhelm, guilt, comparison, overstimulation, mental health, lack of support, being the default parent, loss of identity and so much more. I became resentful, exhausted and it affected my whole experience of motherhood and my 20's. Now I share about these things & more to HELP moms know they are not alone and inspire them to change that by getting honest about their circumstances, practicing self-compassion and prioritizing themselves.

My goal is to shed a light on the very real difficulties that modern mothers face & empowers them to redefine for themselves what it means to be a “good mom”.

With honesty, humor, compassion & hard conversations

These aren't just my struggles.
These are our struggles.

My corner of the internet became a safe place for moms to stop pretending everything was okay, to admit they weren't perfect and to lament without judgement. Acknowledging the truth is what helped me get back to feeling human again. As it turns out:

motherhood really is as hard as it feels.

What I've Learned:

I'm a better mom when I see & treat myself as the whole-ass human being that I am.

I have needs, hopes, fears, feelings and ever-changing identities (mom, firefighter/EMT, marathon runner) — just like the rest of the people on Planet Earth. Being a mom or woman shouldn't erase that truth.

I am human & learning life for the first time too.

I'm a good enough mom

I'd tell you I I know how frustrating it is to be told to "prioritize yourself" or "set boundaries" by people who’ve never walked a day in your iron-clad shoes. I get it because I have lived it. That’s why I’m obsessed with helping women drop the people-pleasing, over-functioning ways that are breaking them.

I share my story with unflinching honesty so other women know they aren’t alone and so they feel empowered to choose themselves in the world that makes it hard to.

Breaking cycles & parenting with intention

Here we get real honest and unfiltered about:

ALL things single motherhood. From: co-parenting, divorce, finances, parenting teenagers, dating drama, mental health, wellness.

Balancing the demands of being a working single mom and how to prioritize yourself along the way.

How to be a more present, confident and intentional mom. So you can actually feel joy again!

The realities of motherhood. With awkward dance moves, serial vulnerability and unhinged rants, I open up about my struggles. You name it. Loneliness, guilt, overstimulation, depression, my childhood trauma, self-loathing, the crushing mental load, society’s insane expectations.

Stories, discussions, resources and of course humor...from people who truly GET IT.